Many couples enter therapy feeling distant or unheard. Over time, patterns of conflict, silence, or withdrawal can leave partners feeling alone. Most seek two things: clearer communication and deeper connection.

At BetterUs, therapy centers on understanding and growth—not blame. Partners learn to identify the emotional cycle that drives disconnection and to create new ways of reaching for each other.

Therapy works best when partners are willing to:

• Reflect on how their reactions (pursuing, withdrawing, defending, or shutting down) shape the emotional cycle.
• Take shared responsibility for co-creating new, healthier patterns.
• Stay curious about one another’s feelings, needs, and expressions of intimacy.

EFT Reflection Questions:

1. When conflict happens, do I tend to pursue, withdraw, defend, or shut down?
2. What emotions or fears drive my reaction —rejection, longing, failure?
3. What might my partner(s) be feeling or needing underneath their reaction?
4. How do I contribute to our negative cycle —and how might I help shift us toward connection?

Successful partnerships view therapy as a shared investment—an opportunity to deepen emotional and sexual connection while growing into a stronger, more secure BetterUs.

Key Ideas:

• Growth through awareness and empathy
• Shared responsibility and emotional safety
• Curiosity over blame
• Understanding and shifting the negative cycle